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The ability to give instructions in delegating tasks to subordinates is essentially important. Unfortunately, there is always a gap between the instructions given and the jobs get done. Among the most common reasons for these discrepancies are Using ambiguous words in instructions, such as,

1.“Get this report done as soon as you can.” If you want it to be ready by three o'clock, then say so.

2. Assuming that instruction given to your subordinate is crystal clear without taking extra effort to clarify it.

3. Failing to motivate your subordinate by taking some time to brief him on why he is being asked to perform this task.

4.Giving too many details to the experienced subordinate or too few to the inexperienced one. The first will be insulted whilst the second will be stressful.

5.Not tailoring an instruction to the subordinate. Some require a direct instruction; others perform better if the instruction is a request.

6. Choosing inappropriate timing for issuing instruction to your subordinate, for instance at the end of a workday.

7. Giving multiple instructions to your subordinate at one time. If you try to cover too much in one session, you risk ending up with nothing carried out correctly.

8. Putting a distance between yourself and your subordinate. If you issue your instruction in writing, you are eliminating the possibility of questioning.

Thanks -----Satyam

Signs of a Relationship Going Bad

The main reason that people stay in a relationship that isn’t working is because they have a fear of being alone. They are scared of moving on, making a new life for themselves as all they can see in front of them is lonliness.
Here are some of the warning signs that a relationship is on the brink of failure and its time to move on:
1. Fighting for no reason. If you are fighting over petty issues that seem to blow out of proportion.
2. Showing little or no affection. This is an area that can break a relationship because its usually determined by the disgruntled party. Do we really know what is too much or too little?
3. If it’s an intimate relationship and you now find yourself in a situation where sexual involvement has stopped or virtually stopped or so mundane that you cant want until its finished. This is the real sign that the relationship is over.
4. Conversation in the relationship has stopped. Remember the long hours you would spend chating on the phone and in person, talking about everything and anything?
5. Finding you are more interested in looking around you at other people/women instead of the one you are with. Remember the times when you would sit at a table gazing into each others eyes?
6. Beginning to realise that finding excuses to not be alone together are becoming more evident. Working late becomes a popular tool.
7. Vacations are spent apart. If your partner says that are going to a particular romantic holiday destination either by themselves or with friends .. It’s over!
These are just a few key points that could indicate your relationship is going bad.


There are many different signs of a relationship going bad. If you will keep yourself objective and open to the signs, it can save you some pain. The break up of a relationship is always a tough thing to deal with, but staying in a relationship that isn’t healthy is worse than moving on and being by yourself. There are a few key signs that you can look for to know whether or not you should end your relationship. These signs do not always spell disaster, but in many cases, they do. Overall, communication is the ultimate way to make this decision, but keeping an eye out for signs of trouble is always a good idea.

One thing you might look for is the when your loved one hurries off the phone when he or she is talking to you. Watch for times that they seem like they can’t wait to end the conversation. It could mean that they something or someone else on their minds. This is by no means a sure sign that your loved one wants to leave. The simple suggestion is to be aware and cautious with this type of occurrence in a situation.

One more indicator that your love is looking to leave is if you are constantly fighting. There are times when couples don’t get along, but it should never be a constant everyday thing. Even worse than simply fighting with your loved-one is fighting over trivial matters. This is a sign that you may be getting tired of each other. Many times, one part of a relationship picks insignificant fights with the other trying to get the other person to break up with them. They get the freedom they seek while not having to be the bad guy or gal that directly causes the break up.

Another way your significant other may be hinting that they want to leave is that you can’t get them to talk about a future with you. If they are avoiding talk of heavier commitment, you may have a person that is not looking for commitment. When you can’t get your lover to make plans weeks ahead, much less years, that has got to make you take some serious time to think about your current situation.

Also when keeping an eye out for reasons for ending a bad relationship, keep an eye out for a loss of interest in sex. This could be an indicator that he or she is definitely not as interested in the relationship any longer. This is a big occurrence in a relationship. This sign is impossible to miss and could mean bad things for your relationship.

One final thing to watch out for when you are watching for signs that your relationship is in trouble is if your significant other wants "space" away from you or to "see other people". This is a sure sign of your loved one backing off from or backing out of the relationship. As soon as you agree to this type of suggestion, don’t count on your relationship moving any further.

Most of these scenarios don’t mean for sure that the relationship is breaking down, but they certainly aren’t positive signs and combined, things don’t look good. While you shouldn’t be paranoid because it can damage a relationship, be smart and discerning. Watch for signs because many of these signs are so obvious they are almost smacking you in the face. Want the best advice? Communicate with your love one. It will not hurt less if you put things off. Get your emotions out there if you think there is something wrong in your relationship

Thanks Kelly Church

Why Panadol for headache ?

Breathing Therapy: We have left, right nose, is that the same for inhale and exhale? ¨ Actually they are different, can feel the difference; right side represent the sun, left side represent the moon.

When having headache, try to close right nose and use your left nose to do your breathing, about 5 min, headache will be gone.

If you feel tired, do it the opposite round, close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while, you will feel your mind is fresh again. Right side belong s to heat, so it gets hot easily, left side belong s to cold.

Most of the girls breathe with their left nose, so their heart gets cold easily.
Most of the guys breathe with their right nose, so they get angry easily
Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right?
If left is faster, you will feel tired. So, close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing, you will get refresh quickly.
This can be taught to kids, but the effect will be better if apply by elders.

I used to have headache, it was so painful, go to doctor, doctor told me: it will be all right if you married! (All audients laugh), doctor does not bullshit, what he said is supported with proofs.
That time, every night I am having headache problem, not able to study, I did take medicine, but that is not a good way. One night, I sit down and close my right nose and breathe with left nose, less than one week, my headache problem is gone! I continue to do it one month, from that night until today, headache does not attack me anymore. This is what I experienced myself, I told others, if headache, can try this way, because this is effective for me. Many people have tried and it works for them as well. This is a natural therapy, not like medicine, taking for long term will get side effect. So, why not try it out?
Always breathing your body can feel very relax.

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